Have you ever wondered why some people today appear to have all the luck, though some people today seem to always struggle? Everyone knows someone who’s always having a helping hand. However much you try to help them out, they always wind up in precisely the exact same place they were before help came. Have you ever looked at who their friends were? Who are they going to get advice from? I was speaking to a buddy of mine the other day about this and he told me something which only made the reality of what he said so surreal. He explained, and I quote”Never take advice from someone you would not trade places with.” I know there are a few people around who might assert this little nugget of knowledge, but for argument, sake lets investigate that saying for only a minute.

Whenever you’re in a situation where you’re hunting for advice, Who do you visit? Is it somebody who looks at both sides of the coin or somebody who will side with you even when you are in the incorrect. In my own experience, I have been told I was wrong about a situation I was in or how I had been coping with it. I may not have enjoyed the fact that they did not side with me but I am glad that they were honest with me. Does the man whom you went to have problems of their own? Are they struggling financially? Do they always appear to be dealing with the exact same thing over and over again? I don’t know about you, But if I am going for advice I wish to visit somebody who has their home in order. If you understand what I mean. If you are attempting to make a change in your life, Why would you go to somebody who’s in worse shape than you? That would not make sense.

So with that thought in mind, Let’s turn that idea over to getting your own business.

In business, you wish to learn in the best right? You need you “Go to man” to be a person who’s knowledgeable in the field they’re in. Or at the very least they’re with a company or business which has plenty of support and education to teach you what is attempting to learn. You also need someone who you can contact and speak to. How frequently have you had the run-around with a telephone call? Nobody wants to take care of your problems so you always get transferred to another person. This isn’t how business ought to be cared for.

Now if you’re in business for yourself, you will need the exact same thing. You want a”go-to guy”. Even if you’re an authority with the business you’re running, you still need advice from time to time. So who do you go to? I’ve learned through the years to find positive men and women that has a terrific outlook on life. They are delighted with their life and love to help others reach the location in their life which they’re trying to find. Let’s face it, I may be an authority in particular facets of my business but have a weakness in other areas. So It’s nice to have people that are willing to give you a hand.

So here comes the moment of truth

I have told you the sort of people that I go to for information. I’ve discussed the sort of individuals you probably look for information. So allow me to ask you a moment of the real question. Are you the sort of person that others come to for information? Do people appreciate what you need to say? Can you tell them exactly what they need to hear merely to keep them as a friend? If you do give somebody else information, Is it advice which makes them want to act out in revenge towards somebody else? That is not healthy. Maintaining a positive attitude and realizing that there are two sides to each coin is the way I combat every situation I am in. Recognizing that the only way I could truly help them would be to consider what they’re saying rather than being quick to judge the situation before processing what I’ve just heard. There have been times I have been listening to a buddy tell me what’s happening in their life and asked for advice and I have had to tell them to let me consider it and get back to them with my ideas.

Yet another thing to consider when helping someone out. I’ve gone to people for information about a situation and they’ve acted like their manner was the only way. If I decided to pick another way, I’d find the”I told you so” answer if my choice was the wrong one. Don’t be like that towards other folks. Whenever someone comes to me for information either about business or personal I tell them what I think, then give them my ideas. I might even tell them exactly what happened in my life through a similar scenario. But always bear in mind that all you’re trying to do is help them with YOUR information, wisdom, and tips. It doesn’t indicate that your way has to be followed.